To Be Cool or Not To Be Cool

I was having an odd conversation with an old friend about being cool. He thinks he *used* to be cool, but is no longer cool. I then realized that there are actually 2 kinds of cool - the trying and the not trying kinds. You can try to be cool, and actually successfully pull it off. I need to find a really good example of that - but Gwen Stefani is probably a good one (no matter how much she talks about really being a dork - or grasps and waves around desperately her random middle class upbringing...) Then you have the not really trying but just being who you are which ends up being cool. Maybe more like Christopher Walken or Johnny Depp.

There's also a difference between growing up and choosing stable employment over dyed hair, letting go of 'your next tat', not going out and getting blasted during the week, being OK with staying in on Friday or Saturday - those things have little affect on how cool someone is.

Liking yourself, doing things that make you happy, feeling confident about your choices, being healthy, being honest, are all things that make a really good foundation for Cool. But whether you like to golf, or cook, or know a lot about World of Warcraft, or love True Crime novels, these are all things that just attract like minded people into your space... If you're all about smoking weed, hiking, reading the Mystics, you probably won't seem cool to someone who enjoys Belgian architecture, is a sake connoisseur and does pilates. So it is all relative, right?

what makes you cool?